Boys vs girls!

Little John is OBSESSED with any and all switches and plugs (have to say it drives me a little crazy constantly telling him to leave them alone or taking them off him). So Mr Ecochick made John a new toy – his very own switch. Take one old switch, an off cut of wood, stick together and now you have a wonderful free toy for a very happy little boy. The thing I wonder is are boys and girls born so different or do we make the differences?
John is crazy about plugs and power tools; all tools really (he thinks all his dreams have come at once at the moment with all the bathroom renovations). Is this in his blood? Mr Ecochick and my father are both engineers so maybe this accounts for his electrical tendencies? I certainly haven’t encouraged him to be more of a boy than to play with girly things; so are our kids just born this way? Society definitely defines things into girl and boy categories; just check out any clothing store the boy side is all blue and green and the girl side is all pink and purple. What does this all mean then? Are we in a boy vs girl world? One where only boys use power tools, eat snails and build things and girls cook, clean and play with dolls?

8 thoughts on “Boys vs girls!

  1. August 7, 2011 at 9:20 pm

    My daughter’s favourite toy for the last six months has been a screwdriver. She uses it to ‘screw’ screws in bookcases. If she can’t find the screwdriver she’ll use something else like a pen. Mum ended up having to buy a kids B+D tool kit.
    Sure, she loves cuddling dolls, but give her a screwdriver and a few screws and she’ll be entertained for ages.

  2. August 7, 2011 at 11:02 pm

    That’s such a cool idea! When I changed cars I was looking to see how to get the bonnet up(ditzy me couldn’t work it out),and then my son pointed it out and told me it was the support rod. He’s been taking lots of notice of poppa when he’s been working on cars, whereas with me anything car related goes in one ear and out the other:)

  3. August 8, 2011 at 1:32 am

    Have a read some day of the thought-provoking book Why Gender Matters by pediatrician and psychologist Leonard Sax. It would be a good one for you to review. Fascinating stuff. http://www.amazon.com/Why-Gender-Matters-Teachers-Differences/dp/038551073X But they probably have it at your local library. If you lived closer, I’d loan you mine!

  4. August 8, 2011 at 7:23 am

    I’m sure it must be a combination of nature and nurture. My mum says she didn’t do anything different with me over my brothers, but I was definitely more into cleaning and dolls etc. Then again, I look at the toys I had when I was kid and they were all very girly. Was that because that was what I wanted or just what I was given? I think by the time a person is old enough to know they’re a girl or boy then it’s really hard to separate nature and nurture because you can’t tell what is modelling on what they see around them, or what is an internal preference.

    Personally, I believe that definite natural difference between people and that commonly this is seen as difference in gender and in some people they are very pronounced and clear cut ( what we would call girly girls, manly men). But I’m also of the opinion that either gender can be inherently “girly” or “manly” or anything in between, and this is most likely down to genetic makeup. Then again the perception that things we’re interested in should be classed as “girly” or “manly” is simply that, a perception, and this has a tendency to change over time.

    I suppose at John’s age it’s a case of a little kid who likes switches!

    Sorry, for rambling. Very interesting topic!

    Alix xxoo

  5. August 8, 2011 at 7:46 am

    Wow thanks for all the comments. I agree an interesting topic that’s why I wanted to write about it. Thanks Mel will check that book out. Kirsty I know what you mean my 3 year old niece is fab with a hammer! Michelle funny I totally get the car thing! I’m not very interested in cars either so funny your son could help you. Alix some great thoughts thanks for that. I’m not sure if I believe boys are boys and girls are girls – I’m defiantly very girl but have loved hammering in nails and other stuff for our bathroom. So I guess we can all be what we want to be. I know it seems silly but John is very crazy about his plugs and stuff which made me think.

  6. August 8, 2011 at 8:47 am

    Hehe – I just remembered something funny. Growing up we had all these little plastic farm animal toys. I used to set them up and play farm with them. My brother on the other hand, used to set them up in teams to play rugby with them! He pulled the ears off the rabbits to use as rugby balls. Even today he remembers which position each animal was in. Go figure.

    alix

  7. August 8, 2011 at 8:49 am

    OMG, I just reread what I wrote about gender stuff and some of it makes no sense! I really should edit my posts before pressing “post comment”. I can actually write english, not that you can tell!

  8. August 8, 2011 at 8:52 pm

    Ha ha Alix can just see your brother doing that. So funny!!! Bunny rugby balls!!!

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